Perhaps the most important work a person can do for their vocation is to complete any ‘unfinished business’ from childhood, as this impacts the foundation upon which all further vocation and mission rests. This work includes the healing of wounds, the forgiveness of those who have injured or neglected us, the strengthening of one’s identity in what is good and true, and the integration of unhelpful emotional scripts set in place in early formation. These scripts, very common in most people, are often the reason we can say with St. Paul.
“I do not understand my own behavior; I do not act as I mean to, but I do things I hate.” – Romans 7:15
Common scripts in Western culture include perfectionism, self-criticism, affirmation seeking, conflict avoidance, the repression of emotions, compulsive thinking and behaviors, eating disorders, compulsive eating, many addictions, social anxiety, and various kinds of anger problems.